“Who can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.” 

Proverbs 31:10


To some, Proverbs 31 can be a daunting list of qualifications that they feel they will never achieve. To others it’s a sweet list of aspirations to which they hold dear. Some may run from it thinking it’s archaic and not relevant to the modern woman, while others revere and long for the values that it requires. No matter what our previous notions of the familiar verses, we must realize that all scripture is truth and holds value to our lives in Christ. Let’s look at Proverbs 31 with fresh eyes and an open heart to what the Lord is speaking to us in this season.

Proverbs 31 verse 10 begins with the question, “Who can find a virtuous wife?” The rhetorical question implies that a woman of this caliber of character is not easy to find. In our flesh, we are not programmed for virtue, and our temptation is to take the easy path, doing what pleases us in the moment. That’s what makes a woman of excellence such a rarity; it is in her choice and practice of virtue that she sets herself apart from the average woman. Thankfully, this comes through the grace and empowerment of Jesus. As New Testament believers, we can look at this through the lens of the equipping of the Holy Spirit in us daily.

“Her worth is far above rubies.” If you bring virtue to the table, you bring the best gift of all. It appears that there is no end to the benefits of the virtuous woman. There are so many things that we can be drawn into pursuing: am I working hard enough, am I serving enough, am I balancing all the things in my home well enough? According to this verse, if we are seeking virtue, it is enough. If our priority is to be a woman of good character who loves the Lord, it is enough. It is the fruit of this pursuit that will overflow and be evidenced in the way we work, serve, and love. Remember, as daughters of the King we have already been credited as “enough,” and here we are invited to walk a path of virtue that will bring joy, fullness, and matchless value to our lives.

The journey to being a virtuous woman is not about just trying to pull up our bootstraps and be a “better person.” That is an impossible task. It’s about asking the Lord to transform our hearts and minds daily so that patterns of virtue become innate to who we are. It’s about learning to love the result of righteousness so much that the process it takes to get there becomes easier and easier to love as well. It’s about saying “Yes, Lord” when we are prompted to do something hard, something that isn’t in our default setting, and then relying on Him to give us what we need to do it. It is something we can seek daily, and the result is of the utmost value.

The version of the Bible we’re reading uses the word “wives,” but this is certainly not limited to married women or women trying to get married. Some versions simply use the word “woman” in place of “wife.” I haven’t even touched on the incredible value, trust, and peace that being a woman of virtue brings to a husband. I’m sure in the coming weeks as we venture through the rest of Proverbs 31, it will become quite evident. But this is also a word for sisters and friends. If an excellent woman is hard to find but her worth is so incredibly valuable, we should all seek to become her by grace and through faith. We should then seek to surround ourselves with women of proven character. Seek to recognize, celebrate, and even call out the areas of virtue in our sisters and friends. If one of these noble women is worth more than rubies, imagine then the richness of a whole group of righteous women. Imagine how precious it is when a community of women strengthens and encourages each other in the ways of the Lord.

Here are four practical ways to honor a virtuous woman in your life.

As we seek to celebrate the Christ-given virtue we see in the women around us, here are four of my favorite little gift items that are a perfect way to encourage a friend and remind her of her value! These are just four simple ideas, but let them inspire you to find ways to call out the beautiful character in your sisters!

  • A key necklace. These necklaces are custom-made with a single word on them meant for the recipient. Many people give this key as a gift and encourage the recipient to eventually pass it on to someone else who needs that word. Check out my favorite key necklaces here!

  • A custom bracelet. These bracelets (and more) are absolutely gorgeous and a meaningful way to encourage a friend. I personally love the “immeasurably more” bracelets that are inspired by Ephesians 3:20, but any word or phrase can be custom made into a piece by The Kainos Company found here.

  • A handwritten card. I LOVE to send and receive cards in the mail! It’s so fun to get mail that isn’t a bill! Take a moment and write a note to a friend telling her about what you admire in her as virtuous. Of course there are thousands of beautiful cards out there, but if I’m ever in a pinch, I can always find a pretty Papyrus card at Target!

  • A printable sign for the home. This adorable print found here is a great reminder for a friend of her value! It’s a downloadable file, so you can print it and put it in a cute frame for an easy gift idea!

 By Kendra Collins

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