“…to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.” Titus 2:5
We were all created to be individuals under God’s authority. In the beginning, our good God’s design was for man and woman to be dependent upon Him and to walk in submission to His absolute authority. In Genesis 3:5 we find Satan, in the form of a serpent, tempting Eve with independence and self-rule. “For God knows the day that you eat of it your eyes will be opened and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” The same temptation Satan used with Eve, he used with the women on Crete in Paul and Titus’ day, and he continues to use it with us today.
As we have learned from Eve, independence and disobedience only leads to separation, loss, and destruction. Paul writes to Titus to encourage wives to obey their husbands. In Ephesians 5:22-24, Paul instructs wives to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord and to be subject to them in everything. Obedience means to listen with compliant submission, assent and agreement. Subject literally means to stand under; it requires obedience and submission. The Word of God encourages us to walk in obedience and be subject to our husbands in everything because as we do this, we come back into alignment with God’s divine order for us. In this divine order, we become beneficiaries of our husband’s covering, protection, care, and leadership.
So here are some helpful tips in walking in obedience.
- Prayer: Submission and obedience first start in praying for our husbands each day in the secret place. First, ask the Lord to cultivate in you a heart that is truly grateful for your husband and the covering he is to you. Second, allow the Holy Spirit to lead you in praying for his needs and all that he carries. Third, ask the Holy Spirit to reveal any lies, accusations, and/or offenses you are holding against your husband. When we walk with grateful, pure, clean hearts towards our husbands, the Holy Spirit gives us the desire to walk in submission and obedience.
- Examine and Repent: Allow the Holy Spirit to examine your heart and show you areas where you are not walking in obedience or submission. Then repent to the Lord and your husband.
- Walk by the Spirit: We can’t walk in obedience on our own. Our flesh wants to walk in pride, fear, and selfishness. We need the Holy Spirit leading and guiding us in humility, love, respect and selflessness.
- Communicate: Take the time to communicate with your husband about every aspect of your lives together: parenting, finances, schedules, ministry, etc. Remember, obedience requires listening. So for us to walk in obedience, we need to allow our husbands to speak in to our lives.
As we mentioned above, prayer is the first place to start in walking in obedience to our husbands. The best resource we have in knowing how to pray is the Word. Here are some areas and scriptures we can pray into for our husbands
As we examine our hearts and pursue walking by the Holy Spirit, we can ask ourselves some of these questions: Am I demanding my way or walking in humility? Do I trust my husband to lead us? Am I listening when my husband is speaking, or do I tune him out? Are my actions bringing separation and destruction, or unity and peace?
As we stated earlier, when we walk in God’s divine order, we become beneficiaries of our husband’s covering, protection, care and leadership. There is no greater way than the Lord’s way. Let’s fight in prayer using the Word of God and the help of the Holy Spirit to live counter-culturally as we come under the covering of our husbands!
By Bethany Martin & Morgan Ebright