“…to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.” Titus 2:5

We are called to be women of purity! Purity is freedom from anything that would contaminate or pollute. In this culture, there are many things that can seep into the soil of our hearts on a daily basis. So how can we get pure and stay pure? For years I strived for purity in my own strength, but I was full of mixture. It was not until I submitted fully to Jesus and His sacrifice for me that I realized there was nothing I could do in and of myself to attain the purity He desired for me.

Jesus’s blood makes us clean. But we are called to walk in and maintain purity in our lives. In fact, I Timothy commands us to keep ourselves pure, but why and how? Seems like an impossible task to stand apart from evil and sin. We are to be set aside for sacred use not common or evil use. Here’s the great news: I Corinthians 1 says it is CHRIST who “made us pure and holy” (thank the Lord for this!). So it’s not in our own strength and in our own doing; we are holy and pure because Jesus laid down His life as the ultimate sacrifice!

So if He makes us pure, how can we stay pure? This is the key, and where it is up to us, ladies. We must daily come before our God and the Holy Spirit to search us, to know us, to see if there is any wicked way in us and then respond and repent for the things He points out. And forgive every place of hurt and thing done to us. II Timothy 2:21 tells us that if we keep ourselves pure, we “will be as special utensils for honorable use,” and our lives “will be clean, and (we) will be ready for the Master to use (us) for every good work.” This is the GREAT REWARD for staying pure! We get to be vessels of honor ready for our Master to use!! Every day and in everything we do, we can be women of honor in our homes, in our workplace, and in our marriages!

When I gave my life to Jesus, He changed everything, and although man-pleasing has been a temptation, there is no one I aim to please more then Jesus and nothing I want to do more then bring honor to Him and to His words. Most of you reading this blog have the same heart—to honor and make proud our Father in Heaven. This verse actually says that we COULD bring shame. The dictionary defines shame as “the painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper or ridiculous and to be a disgrace.” Ever feel that awful feeling? Yep! Me too! It’s the worst! Seems pretty clear to me that we have two choices each day: To allow our hearts to become polluted with things of this life including busyness, disrespecting our husbands, ingratitude, etc., or we can come before our perfect pure God to submit every part of our heart and mind and will to the One who makes us pure and makes us vessels of honor and READY for use! Let’s be ready and stay ready for our Master to use us! I will live the rest of my life and days working to bring honor to my Lord Jesus Christ and those who He deems honorable by the Word of God. This is the power of purity and honor!

So, what are some practical steps to make sure our lives and homes will bring honor to God?

  1. Fully Submit

It seems counter-intuitive, but it’s the fastest way to find freedom and joy. Gwen summed it up quite rightly when she said it all starts with a heart that is fully submitted to Jesus Christ and His sacrifice. Now, I expect most of our readers have already surrendered to Jesus and received Him as their Savior, but if you find yourself struggling with one of these “heart issues,” I encourage you to get alone with God and see if you are completely in line with His mission for your home and have exchanged His will for your own. He is always there, waiting for a willing heart. “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God” (Matthew 5:8 NKJV).

  1. Daily Time in The Secret Place

We have heard this over and over again, but it bears repeating: We magnify that which we meditate on. So spending time in the Word and God’s presence will cause us to be more acutely aware of His character to the point that we will not only be more like Him, but we can HEAR Him better as well. I am well aware of the times I’ve missed spending time with God in my own life, and the pitfalls I could have avoided. But here’s the good news: If we start where we left off, He’s faithful to meet us there. “How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word. I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands” (Psalm 119:9-10 NIV).

  1. Practice Purity

Simply stated, practice doing good, practice showing respect for your husband (it will come back to you in waves of love), practice making wise decisions and being one who makes a home worthy of emulation (not perfect, but joyful, calm and hospitable). Practice thinking pure thoughts. “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy-meditate on these things” (Philippians 4:8).

Resources that may be of help to you:

Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs (insert picture of book from Pinterest board entitled “purity” by Beth Rhora)

“11 Ways to Show Respect to Your Husband” by Mary May Larmoyeux  at familylife.com

“Setting the Atmosphere in the Home…For God’s Glory” by Jami Balmet at youngwifesguide.com


 By Gwen Elliott & Beth Rhora

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